Doing Things I'm Not Good At
Part of me doing enrolling in certificates program in Big Data Analytics is to step out of my comfort zone and try something new. While adjusting to my life as a new professional, I've found myself trying to take more chances and try new things - especially things I'm not good at.
This can be hard because I know what it means to be good at something and confident in a skill - for me, I know I'm good at public speaking, trivia about Seinfeld, and making grilled cheese. But I can't just spend my entire life doing that. When I know how good it feels to be "good at something", being bad at something, even if I'm new or just starting it can be frustrating - but I know I wasn't confident about those skills off the bat. So that means I need to show myself some empathy and understanding. In that spirit, I'm making a concerted effort at doing things I'm not necessarily "good at."
I bought a gym membership. And I've been okay with going regularly. The difficult part is making it over the mental barrier of making it a real priority for myself, and that's it's own work-in-progress, as it has been for the last 24 years.
However, I have taken a liking to yoga classes - it was always something that floated around my brain, and finally, back in the summer, I took my first yoga class. It was a lot harder than I expected. It was frustrating to see how much I had lost my flexibility and balance, especially back from my martial arts days. I know I can probably chalk some of that up to MS, but I also know part of it is also the fact that my fitness routine has been so varied (and non-existent at times) over the last 5 years.
What's getting me through it is 1) knowing how beneficial it actually is in terms of regaining a lot of the flexibility and balance I once had, especially having MS and 2) finding instructors and spaces that allow me to move at my own pace. That's part of the reason I've been so drawn to yoga - the instructors often talk about how there's no "right way" to do yoga, just right ways for me to do yoga on those specific days.
In today's phone-obsessed society blah blah screens blah blah millennials blah blah impatient. You've heard all that before. People are constantly connected, to a fault, not aware, and relying to much on "likes" and "follows" to find meaning and/or happiness. It's a little cliché at this point to talk about that and make those sweeping generalizations.
But I sincerely believe in finding a balance - the reason I do use Instagram or Twitter is I genuinely find it fun. However, I know there needs to be a balance and I, like all of, always have more self-work to do to lead our best lives.
One way I've decided to balance the time I spend connecting myself with others is to try my hand at meditating. Using the “Calm” app has been the most helpful for me in my semi-regular mediation practice just like going to the gym, I know I just have to make a priority for me and realize I can always just take 10 minutes a day for myself, in the hope of building up the stamina and interest to meditate for even longer.
What are some things you do that you’re not “good at”? How do you stay motivated? Specific tips on yoga or meditation? Share your thoughts in the comments.